Have you ever noticed how businesses that have been around since forever usually need some "freshening up"?
In my neighborhood, JCPenney and Hobby Lobby fall into this category for me.
These stores are tired, outdated and in desperate need of a makeover in more ways than one.
If you’ve had the displeasure of visiting either of those companies in the last decade, you are nodding yes right now.
It’s like a 1987 time warp.
By the time you exit the building, you vow never to return.
And then a year or two goes by and you find yourself in need of a quick school uniform or a glue gun.
So you return to the aesthetically displeasing store.
You appreciate their inventory upon first glance and wonder, "Why don't I come here more often? There is such good stuff and it's so dang cheap."
And then...you approach the cash register area to purchase your cart full of stuff that your life would have been perfectly complete without thirty five minutes earlier.
And what should take two minutes to purchase takes twenty.
That's eighteen minutes of your life you can never get back.
You feel robbed of your precious time.
There have been advances in the modern world where high performing software systems make paying for purchases fast, friendly and easy.
Unfortunately, Hobby Lobby and JCPenney have obviously not gotten this memo.
Upon leaving the store, the feeling of dejavu’ floods your body as you vow never to return.
When it comes to raising your kids, do you aspire to do things the outdated JCPenney or Hobby Lobby way?
If you are fed up with your kids ignoring rather than cooperating with simple requests, it might be time to update your software.
If it feels like your people don’t seem to listen until voices are raised and tempers flare, you are not alone as you continue to resort to outdated discipline systems.
There is a “new parenting conversation” that accomplishes cooperation without aggression.
It feels better for a reason.
Because it’s a more effective way to raise kids. Period.
It's sort of like deciding whether to shop at Nordstrom or Penneys.
At Nordstrom, everything is so fresh and friendly.
I love their climate and business model.
I can check out quickly because Nordstrom has efficient and current software.
Otherwise known as computers in this day and age.
I’m pretty sure Penneys and Hobby Lobby still use cash registers.
The old parenting conversation, the way most of us were raised, reminds me of Penneys.
It was simply the way things were done back when.
The history of the old parenting model is rooted in a world where the objective was to raise compliant factory workers.
I have yet to meet a parent that dreams of their kids growing up to live a life wearing baby blue zip up jumpsuits and punching a time clock.
No, no. We are raising innovators and problem solvers.
The old parenting conversation involved threats, rewards, punishment and bribes.
The new parenting conversation is fresh, friendly and progressive.
It’s like comparing Nordstrom to Penneys.
Conscious parenting and the new convo between parents and kids is better.
Only. In. Every. Single. Way.
ABOUT RANDI RUBENSTEIN
Randi helps parents, particularly ones with a strong willed kiddo, learn tools to raise confident, kind, and self motivated kids by improving the conversations in your family.
As the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast and author of The Parent Gap, Randi helps parents keep cool and replace old patterns. Randi’s parenting motto is, “When our thoughts grow, the convos in our home flow".
To learn more go to www.randirubenstein.com.