Tool of the day: P.E.T. (Present Engaged Time)
Spend 5-15 minutes with each child each day doing a child led activity. Be totally unplugged and fully present without an agenda other than being fully present and engaged for a short burst of time.
Give 100% of your undivided attention
Preferably this is a one-on-one activity, so if you have multiple kiddos, you do this with each kid.
Hint: it may look like you guys are doing nothing but hanging out and just chatting affectionately and that would be perfect!
Resist the urge to interrogate, lecture, tick things that you worry about off of your to do list; “Who did you sit with at lunch” – which is really code for “Are you the loser kid sitting all alone?”
Don’t teach a lesson or anything else that your child will perceive as annoying and agenda seeking